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Psychopaths aren't all serial killers. They could be your conniving co-worker who somehow seems to get away with everything, or maybe they're just the totally normal guy who served you coffee this morning. Psychopaths look like you and me, but there's one big difference: They don't have a conscience. They can harm others with absolutely no sense of remorse or guilt. To any onlooker, a psychopath will slip through life unnoticed.

Their ideas and beliefs and behaviors are influenced very heavily by the psychopath. The psychopath for all intents and purposes imposes a new personality the pseudopersonality on the victim. This pseudopersonality is programmed to be very dependent on the psychopath. This is not the same as codependency - many people who do not realize they are dealing with psychopaths come to believe that they are codependent personalities. This is simply not true, because when they undo the damage done by the psychopath, the dependency disappears, too.

It is not actually part of their own personality. This manufactured dependency can be very strong and the person often needs the psychopath or narcissist to know what to do and how to think. They may even need the psychopath to know who they are. The victims may not realize how dependent they actually are on the psychopath. This dependency kicks in big time when the psychopath leaves, when the psychopath breaks up the relationship. In fact, many psychopaths do this on purpose, or even threaten to leave, knowing that the victim cannot survive without them, so that the victim comes running back to them.

And this is typically the first reaction the victim has when they think the psychopath is leaving. They become almost desperate not to lose the relationship.

They try and make up to the psychopath, promising to do whatever it takes and so on. This dependency also explains why battered wives and others in abusive relationships end up going back to the abuser.

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They may be so dependent that they often cannot imagine a future without the abuser and they feel that they are nothing or that they cannot survive without the abuser, or that they will have nothing to live for without them, so they end up going back.

This dependency is one of the effects of the mind control that has been used against the victims and may have nothing to do with the real personality of the victim at all. It's common for those outside the situation to blame the victim saying that they must enjoy the abuse, or they cannot make decisions for themselves or they have dependent personalities and that's whey they return. All these things are mistakes in understanding about abusive relationships.

If someone does not realize that they are dealing with a psychopath they may label themselves as the problem and try and deal with their codependency etc.

Even if someone does know their ex partner is a psychopath, dealing with this dependency is a big effort and it takes time and work to undo this ct of the mind control. As I mentioned, the psychopaths often know that their targets are dependent on them and they use this against them. For example, they may threaten to leave knowing that this reinforces the control because this is often the one thing the victim wants to avoid so the victim changes their behavior to be nicer and more accommodating to the abuser.

If the psychopath leaves and they couple gets back together again for whatever reason, the abuser is often even more abusive. The manipulator will say such things to the victim as, "Well, you wanted to get back with me, so you have to put up with the way I am.

If the psychopath or narcissist disappears suddenly, often called discarding, the victim may be left broken hearted and broke financially. The victim is left wondering what they did wrong, what they could have done differently and how could someone just up and leave suddenly like that.

They may never figure out that they were taken advantage of by a psychopath. All the contradictory feelings and emotions are in play in this scenario as well, on top of the fact that there is no closure of any sort with the psychopath. This type of complete discard is not actually that common because the psychopath may show up again at a later time. In fact, even when a psychopath breaks off the relationship and does not do a disappearing act, they will often hang around, maintaining some sort of relationship with their victim.

This gives the victim hope that things can improve and the psychopath strings the person along, sometimes for years. They continue to abuse and take advantage of the victim often without the formal commitment of a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.

Victims of psychopaths may have been thinking of leaving for years but simply have not been able to do it. See the section on dependency above! At some point something happens and the victim decides that they have to get out, it's time to leave.

The psychopath often knows that their victim is changing and that they are losing control so the first thing the psychopath does is to make friends again with the victim. This makes it difficult for the victim to actually leave because they have renewed hope that their partner is changing and maybe now they can make it work. This cycle may last for years. Eventually the victim leaves but the psychopath is not going to have someone else tell them what they can or can't do so they try all sorts of things to get the victim back.

If a person does not realize their partner is a psychopath, these tactics often work. The psychopath or narcissist spends so much time chasing the victim that they literally wear the person down and the person gives in and goes back and suffers all over again.

If the person does know they are dealing with a psychopath, the early part of life after dating a psychopath can be very difficult. The psychopath may try all sorts of things to get them back, promising the sun, moon and stars, accepting responsibility for the breakup, blaming the victim for the breakup, saying the victim will never find anyone to love them the way the psychopath did, threatening the victim, threatening suicide and so on. The person knows they have to get out, but all the emotional manipulation by the psychopaths and narcissists still makes it very difficult to stay out.

The programming of the pseudopersonality is still very strong and the person may think, "What if I am making a mistake? Good looking charming and romantic.

Cracks then started to appear. The women he had been with, collection of underwear he kept from his conquests. The porn. The lies and the cheating in which he had denied.

Everytime I thought it was me with the problem. He used my past my insecurities against me. Tried to leave but would have the police called on me. I felt like I was going mad. He took me away from my family and friends. Im still on my own with my three children.

Two of which are his. They are both babies. I wont allow him to see Them. If he can hurt me he will them. It was a hard choice but he is not good. I feel no self worth left. I felt ugly and worthless. Now im trying to heal but no one seems to understand. There are no groups where other people have gone through it. So instead I read up I try and find answers. This is the worst thing that has happened to me.

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He tells people I have a personality disorder. I dont. I have been through hell and struggling to get through it. Its so hard to heal. Did I do the right thing for him to have no contact with our children?

How long will it take to heal? He never loved me not really. I feel I have been raped. Why does no one understand? I want to heal and be happy again. I finally awoke to the disturbing fact of my soon to be ex husband being a psychopath. We were a textbook case of the 3 stages. It was wonderful for the first few years until he left his email open and I saw that he was cheating on me with an ex girlfriend.

Of course he denied it and actually was having an affair with her while I was pregnant. I finally realized what he was earlier this year. Then he fully discarded both me and his now 9 year old son.

When I filed for divorce a few days ago I felt better, but now I have to come to grips with the fact that he does not seem to care anything about me or our son. He did cry but I think it was because I filed for the divorce first and he lost control of the situation.

He was crying for himself. The pain is just too much. Why is it so easy for him and not for me? They do get upset when they lose control. You will begin to heal in time, even though it may not seem like it right now.

I wish you and your son all the best. My relationship with my psychopath started out as an affair, for both of us years ago. I ended up moving 2hrs away and eventually ended things which devastated him, but not once did he ever tell me he wanted me and my children. He was into me because I held the power.

This time though, I let my guard down, and thought that this was my chance. I had nothing to lose since I was unhappy in my marriage anyway. I let him in completelyand over the last 2 years he destroyed me. Not one time in 2 years did he ever ask to see me. Now I think it was all by design. One morning after his birthday, he asked me when I was leaving, and whether I needed to shower. Seriouslywho does that? He used to say the weirdest things during our deep conversations that I now know was gaslighting.

I told him never to contact me again. Not once. Some guy, huh? The aftermath has been nothing short of horrific. Any affection from my husband makes my stomach turn.

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I feel like someone has died. He really, really loved the chase and the game. And they are ruthless players. It will take time for you to be able to do that. A big part of it is time.

Another important part is learning about manipulators, and finding out how it happened and what really transpired. I wish you all the best on your journey. Warm wishes to you. WOWAll i can say is Thankyou. I am so thankful that I happened to come across your websiteI have been beating myself up wondering if there was something terribly wrong with me. My story started over 12 mnths ago now.

Everything you describeis what happened. Everything to a T. Everydayhe would come into my workhe was a contractor there and always turned up when i was having my break. He would always smile and say hello, over time i started to actually look forward to his arival. He would say little things ,likeI only come here to see youyou know. Alarm bells should have rung then and therebut instead i started to let down my guard and get to know him better.

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Big mistake. He told me that the very first time he saw me he was smittenhe said that I was the only thing on his mind day in and day outand i beleived him because it seamt any time he had available he would be there at my work wanting to spend time with me. Once we had exchanged phone numbers he would message me constantlytelling me he was thinking of metelling me i was beautifulcalling me his true love ,my babymy beautiful flower everything a woman would want to hearhe said it.

He almost always ended the message with I Love You.

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He went out of his way to do thoughtful romantic things for mebuying me small gifts leaving romantic poems and working his charm and magic. And Yesstupid me fell for it. I was so worried that i would loose him that i told him then and there that i loved him by text message He was so happy that i had fallen in love with himit was like he had finally found and gotten the love of his life.

Thats how he made me feel. It took me about 6 weeks to start a sexual relationship with him. And he treated me like I was the only woman on this earthand the sex was the best i have ever ha and he claimed the same thing. By now i was basically obsessed with this guyand begged and pleaded with him not to end iteach time he would lure me back in and i would accept less than i did the time before. But it made me feel speciallike he loved me so much. As his time for me got less and less i would wonder what it was i had donehe would ALWAYS put the blame back on me for everythingI was a total mess.

And i thought that he loved me. It is only this weekend that my gut feeling finally kicked inwhen i heard him take a phone call from somebodyafter he got up and walked away to take the callI just had this feeling that it was another woman. When i questioned him about ithe said it was his daughter. Monday night i sent him a text to say that i was just a game to him that he never loved me.

His reply as usual. It was my fault for not messaging him or calling him. I told him I was a fooland that i beleive i have been playe and to stay away from me. All weekend i have been fighting with myselfwonderingdoes he love meis it meis it him. Until I came across your websiteIt has made me realise that yes, there are people out there that prey on people like me. I know I will see him at work. What is your oppinion on how to deal with him when i see him at work?

Please help. From what you say, it seems you found this website for a good reason! He sounds prototypical, as does the relationship. Actions point to the truth. And you already know the truth. If you do fold, it will only be more of the same.

And that is hard to let go of. He will only deny everything you say and give you even more doubts. Telling him how you feel is simply an opportunity for him to change your mind. You need to cut off any and all contact with him. Except of course that you will have to see him at your job.

I was reading about covert emotional manipulation tacticsand he fit every single one of those tactics listed thereevery single one. It was like I was reading about my life for the past six monthswellit was my life for the last six months. Before I received a reply from you, I had contemplated on sending him a message to tell him how I feltand unfortunately I did.

I will share with you what I wrote and his reply. How a person can get enjoyment from watching ones pain,is beyond me. To manipulate somebody into thinking they love you is sickening. I know you will refuse to accept the truth as you are never able to take responsibility for your behaviour or actions and always make somebody else responsible for it.

You always said to me that you are not worthy of my love,you were right. You should be ashamed of yourself. But your probably sitting there,smiling to yourself,planning your next move. His reply: You should be ashamed of yourself for thinking my love for you was fake. I understand now that sending the message would have no emotional effect on him at all. But it did make ME feel a bit better. Probably because any normal person would be effected y those words.

And one thing I did forget to mention, just in case anybody was wonderingis our agethis man is 51 and I am 46and I have never experienced this type of person throughout my life, ever, until now.

Once againThankyou for your help, your kind wordsand the site. Now that you know what he is, you know there is nothing to go back to. Stay strong! I wish you the best of luck. I found out earlier that my fiance had been forwarding my mothers calls to voicemail which he completely denied. Im only 23 and I honestly thought I was loosing my mind, but its all in your blog. Everything started out so perfect.

He did things id never had any man do for me. Honestly he still does only less enthusiasticly now. He goes to the store when im tired or sick, buys me food or medicine, rubs my tummy when im cramping, sings me to sleep, takes me out when im bored, everyone know were together accept of course the women he keeps talking to behind my back. He calls me his wife to everyone we meet but guilt trips me when I say I dont have to stay forever cause were not married yet.

He cries and holds me down so he can rub my stomach when we leave he believes our babies are inside waiting to be born. When I pack my things he dumps out my bag and purse or threatens to throw me out without anything. I was depressed for days until I had a break down and started breaking everything in the house. I just felt like it was all a lie.

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Why should our house be so perfect when our relationship leaves us with a broken home? He got so furious with me he ripped of all my clothes and tried to throw me out of the house naked after pushing me into our fridge and knocking my head into a few walls. I started scratching my arm in secret because I didnt have the courage to cut myself. Only now I dont know what real and whats not. I made the fatal mistake of saying I wanted to die once and he dragged me into the kitchen naked and threatened to slit my rists with a knife.

Later he told me he only put the back dull end of the knife to scare me into not wanting to die. Even now as im telling you this it doesnt seem real. It all seems like it happen to someone else or he was just being dramatic. Im afraid though. Its in the morning and I cant sleep. Im afraid the because I told him I wont believe his manipulations anymore he might hurt me. I cant go home, my family loves him. And the shame of going home only 3 months after we left with nothing.

I have a job interview in the morning ant and im awake staring at him sleeping peacfully on the floor afraid he wake up in the middle of the night and stab my stomach. Worst of all I still love this man deeply. He built my confidence to an all time high and then proceeded to tear me down again saying I look prettier without makeup or hair extensions. All the while chasing the girls who have the hair and makeup caked on like sluts.

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I do feel more in power reading your blog though. I pray I find a way out of this alive and not with his blood on my hand in the middle of the night.

No one know my stuggle. All our freinds envy us and say we are the perfect sickoning couple. My only confidant is his ex with whom I am now friends with.

Im so confused and I just pray I find some help soon. Thank you for your blong and alowing us to vent here and find guidence. I hear the pain and confusion in your words, and my heart goes out to you. You must put pride, shame, and anything else aside and get away from this creep immediately.

What people think is not important. Living in a lie to uphold the image your friends and family have is no reason to stay with him.

Is this what you wanted for yourself, what you imagined for your life? You are not able to see clearly now. You need to stay away from him - no contact - and then you will be able to see things clearly, and when you do, you will be so happy you walked away, and so shocked at what you became willing to put up with.

Thank you for your kind words. I am free from a obsessive psychopathic stalker, thief, liar- although he is still hunting me down.

I wanted to ask you what is wrong with people like me who get in relations like these? Yes, they are very clever and hide who they are but what attracted me to him? You must know something about this. I think not every woman would fall in with a man like this. What am I not seeing?

What is wrong with my gut feelings that I do have? How could this happen? I am a really good, kind person- I must be a dupe though. He has more rights than I do- I think I have a right to know what his record was. Is there any legal aid for this kind of problem? How sad- PTSD makes it hard too, hard to move forward with clarity-anyway I need legal help- wish an attorney angel would appear-thank-you, any info about these freaks helps the people who have been touched by their evil ways.

He won, he got everything we had, he got free money all with a stroke of his pen, and the legal system dropped the ball on me- I wish I had paid bouncers instead- forget the DA - forget that sort of help-my advice to women is take care of it yourself! You were loving and trusting and forgiving. You wanted to share your heart with someone. You believed in people.

You trusted that they are as decent and kind as you are. There may also have been other things, such as loneliness or loss or a wound from the past. But all they need are our best qualities. What attracted you to him? He pretended to be that decent, kind person that you are. He pretended to be capable of love, and he pretended to love you and want to have a relationship with you.

Absolutely nothing. What a psychopath excels at is disarming our gut feelings. You must be a dupe? You, and everyone else. It comes with being human. What the victim-witness woman said is true. Yes, there are thousands who also experienced the same thing.

Dating after dating a sociopath is a serious undertaking. You may not like hearing this, but here's the thing: Don't even think about dating for a year after an entanglement with a sociopath. Sociopaths, users, and narcissists alike can smell the scent of our vulnerability a zillion miles away. Jul 10,   I was dating my ex whom I feel is a socio, everything about this blog reminds me of him, he use to lie and turn the tables on me, would tell me im mental when i question him on things that dont add up, when i met him he quickly feel in love with me, i was the best thing hes ever had, wanted to move in with me straight away, couldnt wait to show me to his family and friends, went everywhere i. This article is adapted from a post on my psychopathy website Neuroinstincts - Are You Dating a Psychopath | 16 Warning Signs of Psychopathic Traits (April, ) References Mager, KL., Bresin, K.

I agree, you need some good legal advice from someone who is an expert at dealing with these manipulative, character-disordered people. You can start a search for one on one here:. Please stay safe. I cannot thank you here enough. This is handsdown the most informative and helpful site that I have been lucky enough to stumble upon. I responded to this particular story, because the writer asked the same question that has been haunting me for sometime now.

What flaws or weaknesses did I have that allowed me to be a victum? How can I protect myself from this ever happening to me again? My self esteem has been devasted to the point that I wonder if it was ever truely intact. Thank you so very much for this site, for sharing so many stories to help us all to know that we are not crazy, and that we are not alone, and for all the important and helpful information that can help every victum become a survivor. Thank you, Debra! It makes me very happy to hear that my website is so helpful to you!

You made my day. I wish you all the best on your journey to freedom. I believe your best bet is YOU. I was determined and I became my own advocate. I had faith in my power to heal and faith that I would find a way.

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I got help from others as I could find it, but most of the help I got came from within. I mustered up strength I never knew I had, and developed the resilience I needed as I went along. I also found help in a therapist, a shaman, and fellow victims. I developed boundaries and self-confidence, while resolving old and ineffective behaviors e. I did, and continue to do, work that enables me to act with compassion and help others.

That is so very important. Each of us has the ability to overcome great adversity, and that adversity has the power to be the catalyst of incredible self-growth. I know psychopathy causes many of the problems suffered by humans, animals, the environment, etc. Psychopathic thought is gaining ground, while compassion lessens. Psychopaths stay hidden, but they hide in positions of power and influence, in the community and on a larger scale.

Government and the media are controlled by them and those who benefit from them, and together they manipulate and control the narrative and the focus of our attention. It has to become a conversation first before anything can happen.

We can act within our own spheres of influence, no matter how small.

This world is in dire need of more compassion, and we can offer that to others every chance we have. Luckily I had some common sense to postpone moving in with him.

He wanted me after a month but I said it depends on my financial state. After two months he started pushing for threeways and made me feel really insecure and confused.

IF he had really loved me he wouldnt have wanted to have sex with other people so soon but he wrapped it so nicely I actually thought I was not good enough, not open minded enough. Whatever I tried it was always my fault, he never offered to change anything. But I kept asking myself why would I stay with him, I knew I wasnt happy, just in the initial first month so at the end I had to break it off after seven month, a week ago.

I am really proud of myself having the strength to walk away just worried a bit about unseen wounds in my soul. So thank you for your website it helps me a lot to understand what really happened.

Hi Eva. Time will tell. Those are signs of wounds you may not be aware of. I also kept a journal, which I started a couple of months before the P was gone. Thanks for your comment, Eva. It has been years since I have been separated from my husband that I have just recently learned is a psychopath. He had lied about everything. I am now taking him to court for being a bigamist. I have had other woman contact me throughout the years.

But within the past 3 months I had others contact me. One woman was the most recent girlfriend and then two woman that were friends or family of his new wife. I felt I was stronger now and at first comparing stories and having each others support helped. A private FB page was created and we all compared our stories. My goal was to make him come up in google searches and to help the woman that is still married with him.

The most recent girlfriend helped with putting up a blog. But there was nothing we could do to help the wife. This killed me because I knew what type of life she was living.

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He lied about everything. When he was with me he even lied about dying. She probably knows something was off as I did - but was stuck under his trance. The woman in the group supported me enough to get me to file a bigamy case. The hope was to get him to do jail time so possibly his current wife would wake up and leave him.

But after many months of the case being postponed because he was lying to the court about things - we finally went to court. The court never dealt with a bigamy case and need to reschedule to research. He wanted me to send in all the supporting evidence. It was very hard seeing him again after years.

Feelings I had buried started coming back. I did feel empowered because I went through with it - but it was very hard. After the court hearing - I started to feel anxiety when trying to get all the documents to send to the court.

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But I did it. Then a reporter who was going to cover the story finished the article sent me a release form giving my approval to post it on her site because her company did not approve it for release. I did not feel comfortable to sign it. I also found errors in the story that needed to be fixed.

I guess my comment rubbed a few people the wrong way - the same people that told me they would be there for me - did not comment to my post - that bothered me. Then in a few days I see the article was released without my consent. She did take out my first name so I will not come up in google searches but she did not get the errors fixed or approval to post it. I felt so betrayed.

So I emailed the reporter that I want the story pulled off the site. She responded that having the article will help with the bigamy case. Which confuses me because the case is about bigamy not about his lying and betraying woman.

I decided at that time I was removing myself from the group and going to seek help on my own. That is when I found your site which made me very happy.

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It is the first one I found that gets right to the point, helps you relate what is going on with yourself is trueand see that what is going on with you is not crazy.

All of the woman except for a few - have been very supportive about my decision to leave the group and get help on my own which I am grateful. I am also planning to go visit the current wife to see if she will talk to me. I just feel like I need to try something to help her wake up. I am confused on how a woman - the reporter - who also had a husband that was a psychopath lose site of understanding what I am going through - and try to help me who was right in front of her.

I also feel betrayed. Am I right that reading my story only helps woman find comfort - but can not help them deal with being with a psychopath? This makes me feel like the article was more important than our goal as a group.

I have had a few emails back and fourth and she still is not being understanding and compassionate. We are on different pages so I told her best I finish my journey on my own. I go to court next Friday. I know I am strong enough to go against him. I just know that regardless what the court says - I need help. Do you know any support groups in NYC?

Once I am stronger - I would like to start educating woman about men like my husband. Thanks for giving me the opportunity to post to your site. I believe it is very helpful to talk about what happened.

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I can not wait until I am free from this. But I think you were very wise to have left this group. It seems to me they wanted you to fulfill their agenda, not do what was good and right for you as an individual. Sounds like the reporter did the same sort of thing. Yes, she should have cared more about your feelings than her personal gain from publishing the post.

I wish I knew of a support group for you. You might try doing some searches for support groups. Do you see a therapist? A good one who is expert in trauma and abuse is something to give serious consideration to. I have more to say, and I will be back later today to add to this reply. Thanks for posting your comment! Please be careful about warning his current wife. I wish you the best of luck at the trial - please let me know how it turns out.

Best wishes to you as you move forward, Penny! Thank God that there others who are in this situation. What can we do as a collective to warn people about these sick individuals so they dont keep harming. There are plenty of us, too many!

Your question is a good one, and I wish I had an answer. None of us were warned. Everyone feels like they were blindsided because it was no where on their radar. That makes me wonder. I tried to warn my friends afterward, and not one of them could grasp what happened but whatever it was, they said, it would never happen to them.

But maybe they can, or maybe at least some can, so we have to try. It will take something else, and it will take a lot. Our relationship is an endless cycle, kind of like a disease that goes into remission but frequently comes raging back. It starts with constant communication. Texts and calls throughout the day, even into the dead middle of the night. He misses me, he says. He wants to see me. He thinks about me all the time. This is like reading about him personally!

I really did feel like I was going crazy during a lot of the time with him and still trying to recover now. What about the exact opposite? The total neglect by a passive aggressive sociopath?

The addition is just as strong, but items 1, 2, and 4 are missing. Then what? Maybe a Narcissist? Have you looked up NPD? Sociopaths are charming charismatic they wear a mask. They mirror you be exactly who you want them to be. He was wearing a different mask with her than he was with me. But he did tell me all the things I wanted to hear mirroring and had no remorse when I found out he was cheating, he blamed me matter-of-fact.

Well, I had The same as Lenore; he had no remorse on the cheating or anything else he did. So what he did not have was actually 1, no non stop talking, and no 5 or 6. A passive aggressive would never for anything so overt. He tried to pull her in on last 2 days over some bs drama, current girlfriends daughters stirring up stupid teen crap, really mature of him to get involved, huhshe let him have it with both barrels.

WOW AT 12! I am still simply floored.

In your life after dating a psychopath, the best thing that you can do is to learn about mind control, psychopaths and narcissists. The more you understand about the details of these things the less the effects of the mind control on you and the more you take back control of your own life. Lingering Pain After a Relationship with a Psychopath or Narcissist You might also try the site "Aftermath," a venture for victims that was created by Kosson, Hare, and others in the field. I wish they would maintain the website better than they do and make it easier to navigate, but it could provide you with some useful info. Jan 27,   Congrats, you've survived a relationship with a narcissist. Getting out of-and, better yet, getting over-any romantic relationship can be a total nightmare. But it's a whole different, er.

My son is 10, they are both done, with his game playing. Court in a few weeks. See what happens. My brother married a woman two years ago after a 4 month courtship. Immediately, she started to share outlandish stories of great success or being a victim and he totally believes everyone. We were able to show prof of the lies and even learned that she had been married at least 10 other times but she will always have an excuse that he believes.

I shared my concerns about her with my brother and he defended her and dismissed everything. I have broken contact with him hoping she will either find a new victim or he figures it out. However, I am worried as she convinced him to obtain a large life insurance policy even though she claims that she is the beneficiary on a large trust that she will get in a few years.

I would love to share with him the information on datingasociopath. Question is share now or when it is over? Hi Bystander, thanks for your comment. She will deflect and turn it around on you, and you then look like either the bad guy - or crazy! If she is saying that she will be beneficiary to a large trust fund, can you do some digging to find out if this is true?

I can see why you are concerned for your brother - try to get her to open her mouth, brag, then do the digging to see if you can find evidence to disprove her lies?

As I am sure your brother would then also need an explaination? Sounds like right now, she is still running the show! I feel guilt for wondering. I was certain that after all her hoovers trying to contact or actually trying to get me to react that after a week that she tried.

I did not react.! I feel bad for have wondered if she would contact me for my bday. I think you should focus on you. You said that you were spooked that she was checking your youtube channel.

I have a very busy life and lots in my head. I need to care about me. I want that now! Dont be so hard on yourself. Take it one day at a time. Also, I got a bit jealous when I found out my sociopath reached out to the other woman and not me. Although everything about the relationship was fake on his part, the love I had for him or the person I thought he was was real. It takes time to heal as I have learned that my heart is a slower learner than my brain. The same may be the same for you?

Yep I know. I am crazy for you. But when we are on top they take us there. I am a very fit person. I never smoked. I take good care of my body and I am not a party person. I love animals deeply. I feel shame to be so stupid and stay and fall in her traps. I am responsible for my bad choices and she was a bad choice! My friends never liked her. My family is all far and never met her.

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I blocked her and yet she found a way to leave comm under my youtube comm. I should be so happy and part of me is. I feel shame to have thought that.

I know she is evil and a manipulator. I know she is a horrible person. I also know that all men will be happy with her. Good thing I enjoy me agin! Having lunch with friends just taking time to remember to appreciate life! No reaction. I have been frequenting this site for the past month or so after coming to realize that my recent ex girlfriend is a sociopath. I am a creature of knowledge and wanting to learn why things are the way they are.

Upon searching the Internet for why someone ceases all contact and turns so cold, I found this site. I am so thankful I did as it has helped me in so many ways. It has only been a little over a month since the breakup of our roughly 8 month relationship and I have come so far, I think, simply because I stumbled upon this site by accident.

All of your words speak volumes. I never knew a person like this existed in such abundance until I read all of your comments. That there are all these broken souls who will never experience love the way it is meant to be. I tend to believe the concept that sociopaths are a product inherited genetics or have had severe childhood trauma or neglect.

Not to mention those of us who suffer their wrath. So, I actually came here tonight to seek my fellow survivors opinion on a matter. Of course, in the beginning I tried to contact her with either short responses or no answer at all.

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She had found a new source when I kicked her out so I am out the picture. I shipped some of her belongings to her early on after our breakup. Well, she text me for the first time the other day apologizing for all the bad things she put me through and reiterating that she never cheated on me I had found out from someone that she had slept with this person while we were together and she knows cheating is NOT tolerated with me. My question is. Should I continue to practice NC and not respond or should I tell her she can pick up her things on such and such day and leave them outside where she can get them without having to see her?

She stated that she saw some FB posts of mine and was happy to see I was doing well. She has me blocked and apparently unblocks when she wants to see my profile. She has played games before promising to do something then not just to play her game with me. Any advice? Hi Wisersoul, thank you for your comments.

What I did, was to to time frame it, and take back the control. State what time you will put the belongings outside say 12pm Saturday. The risk that you have with this strategy is that she could complain that she has items missing etc.

Also confirm, that you are finished the relationship is over, and that you do not wish to go back to her, to talk or engage otherwise in conversation. Also give her the option, that if she wants to arrange for someone else to collect at 12pm her items wont go outside, and this is fine too.

As she has a genuine reason for making contact. I hired a private security company to be here when my ex not the SP, his mistress is came to get his things. Best money I ever spent. Over time, the blaming and accusations came.

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I lost my job of 18 years due to not being able to put in OT controlling behaviors and when I did it was held against me. He overstepped his boundaries on many different levels, there was split between me and my children and I felt like I was walking a tightrope between time, it was him or them.

Of course, he always said he supported me spending time with the kids he did not want to be included in BUT also used it against me. Oh the reason I go out is because I went out and had fun already OR I spent my time working and not with him my choices.

I tried so hard tobalance this but still I was theone at fault. I have nothing left to give him. I tried so hard - so hard to please him. Something was always wrong with me. He was going to leave me anyway unless I had more I could give him.



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