So I wish you good luck. And remember you should never settle. You deserve someone who loves you, and he is out there. Looking for you. Go find him now.
My suggestion is that by doing everything in moderation - mastering both small talk AND deep talk - you maximize your chances of making a deep connection with the greatest number of people.
I also really dislike shallow or casual, etc. I really like deep and meaningful.
Jhene Aiko - None Of Your Concern (Official Video)
However, I am also a very reserved and private person.