What do you say about the reverse? I mean, I can see why an older man would want to date a younger woman - physically that is, but why would a year-old woman want to date a man 45 or more? I can totally understand why older men go for younger women. Time creates wisdom - but it also creates responsibilities and complications - mortgage, kids, career, etc. All of this makes dating more and more complex as we get older.
He wanted to mold me to what he wantedthe only trouble there is, I did grow up.
Sorry, im 25 dating a 30 year old thanks for the
As for daddy issues. My dad was never around at my young age.
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I seriously had more fun with my ex. And the young shall grow. Write back when he is That made me roll my eyes a bit. Honestly, why go out with a much older man if you still have to work hard to please him! Surely the pay off of going out with a much older man is that he is working very hard to please you!!
So a 13 year age gap is a daddy issue? He was still in your age range! Alot of men dont even have wives or kids yet at that age or are just settling down He cant even be your daddy cause hes 12 or 13 yrs older than you. On another note most ppl over 45 shouldnt show much of an age difference so make that over Your spouse is still a young adult now so no need to worry about that now.
Youre both adults I think its a a little immature for a man over 28 to date a girl under 24 but its nothing that bad hes barely over 35 I know alot of immature guys in their late 20s and 30s that only date and hang around ppl in thier early 20s.
On the latter one of older seeking younger ad 6. And whose doing is that? And yes you can appreciate your dad. Even if it starts out that way, the youngin will grow and realize the folly of youth.
Better make sure she has no financial assets to take care of herself. If you are very rich, she will still leave you and collect alimony. People can find others their own age to appreciate. Unless you are a movie star or famous person, keep dreaming.
Appreciation is not a reason to get married.
We both care for each other,and we never talk about our age we just live life one day at a time. Does she have the opportunity to become everything she possibly can be in life while in a relationship with you?
I am 31 and my guy is 48, I am a nurse and he is a CEO of a company. When we first met I never asked how much he made or cared. I felt drawn to him and he was so funny and fun.
The first night we met I ended up taking care of him because he had got really sick. He was really embarrassed, the following weekend we met up at a 4 day concert event where our love story began. I usually get along better with people that are older due to my views and values in life. He is better in bed than ANY guy I have ever been with and he loves so passionately. He is kind, sensitive, smart, caring, and fun! I appreciate this man and love him with all of my heart. I simply feel a deep connection to him and I know he feels the same way.
We connect on an emotional level, a physical level, and a mental level.
I'm 18, He's 48 Ė Now We Have Twins - LOVE DONíT JUDGE
In life that is almost near impossible to find and there are people out there who never get to experience that with someone else. I was lucky enough to find that someone for me. How well two people work together and understand one another. How that person brings out the best in you and wants the best for you. I could have a guy from many age groups.
I go by what is right for me and for my guy. We have ups and downs like anyone else. That is normal. We grow and learn along the way. Life is so short and we are not promised tomorrow. Others may and have that right to their own opinions. Thanks for the interesting read. What about when he ends up in a nursing home, are you going to be his carer?
Now we are both retired and we are closer than ever. My own dad was affectionate with his 3 daughters but it was clear that my mom was his girl. That is what I got. My ex left me for a 22 year md singer and dancer. He was I was shocked that he he married her. She had nothing to give him. She took my home belongings, had an Invitro baby. I never had closure.
May she have the dump of her life. Why are you mad at her and not him? The sense of entitlement this woman displayed was truly unbelievable. But noooo. The Other Woman to whom he could have lied to get her into bed is at fault. Ladies, sure get mad at the woman, too. The other woman is irrelevant to your anger. If this simple logic is not something you gals can get your arms around, no wonder there is so much dysfunction once a woman gets into a relationship.
Karmic: WOW is right. When did I ever say otherwise?
Frankly, I blame both of them for their actions. Two people made a choice to betray their spouses and destroy two families.
Think, that im 25 dating a 30 year old sorry, that has
Now both have paid the price for that choice. She is now a single mother with no support and he wants to come home to me but that door is permanently closed. Those are some pretty snide assumptions you are making there, especially considering that I never said anything you could base those on in my comment.
She knew me and our young children. Our kids played together for crying out loud. She is a Narcissistic Gold Digger so, no, she was not some innocent victim that my husband lied to.
Fantasy)))) im 25 dating a 30 year old are not right
I like your posts. Most women on this board vilify uncommitted men commitment phobes, man-children, narcissists, etc. The anger seems so disproportionate to the offender. So you took it upon yourself to inform us of how very deluded we all are without any background information.
I could pluck all kinds of things out of the ether and sound off on you for neglecting to mention them. Now see how silly that sounds? Ditto for the rest of us. If you actually care how we feel about something just ask before you criticize, unless criticizing is really all you wanted to do in the first place. Please show me where I said that all men must commit to a woman.
Forgive me for not expounding upon the topic to your satisfaction. Only to vilify the other woman, when the MAN - who was in the relationship with you - should be one vilified. All three of you only mentioned all the details after I challenged what was written. Oh, I vilified him in spades. Was I under some obligation to tell you every tiny detail right off the bat? Do you get to dictate what we share publicly and when? I took out the majority though admitted not all of my anger on HIM.
There is no emotional investment in the woman. She is not someone the wife has a deep attachment to, therefore, it is easier to forgive the guy and blame the outside enemy.
Not condoning it, just considering why it might happen. You felt the relevant details was to name call the woman. I would have commented differently had you and Stephan and Sharon wrote with as much anger towards the man as towards the woman.
Duh we can drop this now, right? Have fun. Mine left me for a younger woman as well, after putting us all through total hell for two decades with his drug addiction. That puts a whole different spin on things. A man in his 40s or 50s is likely either married or divorced. Dude goes through a mid life crisis, leaves wife and kids for a younger POA who makes him feel all youthful again. Too late sucker. No take backs! He stuck with her anyway for a while to avoid being alone but he did eventually dump her.
I have to admit that it makes me quite happy to see that SHE is now a single mother too because she left her husband to steal mine. Karma is a beautiful thing! Walk a mile Derek, then come back and lecture me on my morality. My husband left me after 20 years of marriage to be with a 22 year oldHe is 57 years old.
The longest, best romantic relationship I ever had was with a much older guy. All that said, we were very much in love and it felt like we were equals.
im 25 yrs keitaiplus.com engaged to my sexy 42 year old guy,the wedding is in a few months,I have been with him for 30 months and it has been amazing,all relationships has its rough times but over all we never quit on each other I love him As much as he loves me and sexually he is fantastic,can't complain. Jun 03, † I have been described as an "old soul", so it's not surprising I get along well with older women. As a year old, I dated a year old. As a year old, I dated a year old. As a year old, I dated a year old. In all cases, it was two people being attracted to each other, not two numbers. Life is too. fucking. short. I'm 31 and I've dated women that were 20, 21, and I don't actively seek out women that are younger, and each time they have been the one to contact me. I prefer younger women because they aren't desperate to marry and have children, which is o.
I know that people looked at us and thought things - esp. Well, not rank. And, it turns out, in our lives. But we never talked about that stuff - we were just into each other and our work together.
But it also feels like peace and happiness. I do know many successful May-December couples. The woman is most often the younger, but not always. Gotta get off the internet. My eHarmony guy is gonna call in a few. Not as exciting as Award Man, but very funny, nice. Older guys: higher social value. I totally buy younger women going for older men. See it all the time. They only plan on being together for 15 years, give or take.
Basically a really long LTR or a planned mid-term marriage. Does anyone have a problem with this? He gets what he wants fantasies fulfilled, feels younger, arm candy, whateverand she gets what she wants that is, a comfortable life.
Lance, the only problem is at 60, the old guy will not let the 43 year old go. Can she, yes she can but she has to be wise. I am 53 and am on friendly terms with several women in their 40s, who are keenly looking for someone to settle down with.
BUT there are plenty of women, desperately lonely, and will do almost everything to have someone love and care for them. There are many more 40 year old women than there are 40 year old men. In person as well as online. I have dated ages both ways. Someone who most people know of, Sandra Bullock, has just been voted most beautiful woman in the world in some poll and she is a beauty at 51, and another familiar face, Christie Brinkley is a total knockout at 61, but there are plenty of beauties of that age on match etc.
They have lots of experience and many good years ahead of them. I was married for 23 yrs before i found out my wife was cheating, I got divorced, then I met her, her family loves me.
You want a young woman she wants a young man too. The younger men just want sex. You still look good and feel young, but the only men who want a real relationship with you are over Cause the person at a real loveing level alll you love about themyou watch their body age and them struggle to communicate and talk and it killllls you.
Some people actually love the person and the traits that create them and didnt know the age or couldnt tell and then love is there so oh well and too late. I think people should be mindful on the younger and understand what you could be taking and be kind enough to say no. And marry your own age or closer and form a relationship to love with someone your own age.
Wish he would have pushed me away a to save aallll this death pain. He could have found someone his age. I love him. KNOW what I would. It was selfish. At 48, Is He willing to remarry for his second or third time and also have kids with you and form a happy family?!
In the other side, Is he just using a young woman exploiting her prime youth for companionship but not committing in order to offer her a marriage and kids cause he will be a Grandfather instead.
I briefly - very briefly - dated a 50 year old. He just knocked my socks off. Do THEY jointly plan on being together for 15 years?
Or does She? I ask because the VRD can live like Hef cialis, viagra. The grown-up events are very nice, and not something that a young guy can bring you to. My family background has made me naturally drawn toward older people friends and romantic interests alike. Perhaps the fact that guys closer to my age are finally maturing has something to do with it. And lastly, in regards to the sugar daddy or rich older man phenomeon. Not necessarily the case. Financially though, I suspect I have far more assets.
Though I also know more than a few young ladies with a thing for Sean Connery. I believe she is an animal lover. These days a lot of women are holding onto their hotness. Prostitution is very quid pro quo, Vino.
Would each have the same feelings if he were an old loser and she were a young ugly thing? It is not normal to fall in love with someone who looks like your dad. But if he promises security, you might take him on the offer.
I admit you might grow to care for such a person but chances are he chose the inexperienced girl to manipulate. When she grows up, game over. Some will even get you working 16 hours straight overnight hours whilst they sleep with their pot bellies hanging out.
What does SHE offer? What other ways? Deathslayer writes yet another priceless post. A choice quote or 2, so people can link over. You could have said, learn to play pool, take him to a sports game, or boating. There were a ton of things you could have done to be with your man and make him happy.
But the only way all you women could define yourselves was as three holes and nothing else. You are right. They are not that stupid. They just accept it as the cost of admission, like paying a membership fee to join a country club or a cover charge to enter a night club.
Older women appreciate younger men for the same reasons older men appreciate younger women. Younger men are more likely to have a flat stomach and all their hair. Perhaps to get back to that time of life when sex and relationships were merely sport and conquests?
At any age. Is there an entertainment star you admire or did as a teen who is 12 or more yrs.
You im 25 dating a 30 year old that interestingly
If so, it might amuse you in the coming decades to see how well THEY age. How would being divorced with a kid appeal to younger women who are neither divorced nor have a kid?
If it's okay for a man to date a woman five years younger, it's okay for a woman to date a man five years younger. You have been trained, by our culture, to see relationships between an older man an a younger woman as normal, and the opposite as abnormal.
This is't how it actually works, though; plenty of women are with younger men, especially a gap of only five years. This is revealing. This shows the origin of this question. You've been taught by our society that younger women are "better. This is, to be blunt, complete sexist bullshit. Having a girlfriend who is a few years older than you says nothing about you, but worrying about it does. It says you are insecure. A friend of mine started a relationship like that a couple of years ago.
She was 29 when they started dating, I suppose. He was 24ish. They got married two weeks ago. This sort of thing, as with almost any relationship, is almost entirely dependent on the people involved. A 5 year age difference when both parties are adults is totally fine and normal. That's not okay. If you think this way already, what you are going to think when it's time for your friends to meet your girlfriend? Are you going to be embarrassed about her being 5 years closer to wearing Depends diapers or something?
Of course its ok. But please make sure she never sees this question or knows about your concerns because it would be really hurtful and if I were her it would be amble reason to not date you or to dump you if I was. It would be okay if the man was 26 and she was 21 but the other way around feels too milfy, or cougarish.
Also, I'd just like to request that you and society as a whole work super-hard to unpack yourselves of this notion. If you could see your way clear. Because, "An age and power differential is okay as long as it's the man in power"? Nekker at PM on June 3, [ 40 favorites ]. A 26 year old guy, dating a 31 year old woman, is it okay? As far as your references to "milfy" or "cougarish", ummmmmmm, I'm I'm not a mom or even vaguely matronly. I'm not elderly. You and I most likely have virtually identical life experiences and overall approaches to the world.
We like the same bands, watch the same TV shows and movies, and are nostalgic about the same Saturday morning cartoons. The age difference is perfectly acceptable, and i know plenty of successful couples with that type of age gap. You, on the other hand, sound immature and judgmental about both gender relations and age, and so it probably won't work out, unless your prospective girlfriend is willing to be considered milfy or a cougar, but she probably won't.
A five year age difference is of no consequence if the two people involved are at the same stage of maturity. This does not seem to be the case here. She needs to be dating someone more in her maturity bracket. You need to mature some more.
I would never ever date a woman and not be proud of her, and hide her from my friends, it wouldnt be fair.
I haven't even asked her out yet but it seems like she wants me to. If I was in a relationship with her then I'd most certainly be happy with what she was posted by curious-mind at PM on June 3, [ 1 favorite ].
Um, yes, it's fine. My 31 year old girlfriend says no, it is not ok. Like most things, it's okay with some people and not okay with others. If you want to date this woman, pursue that goal. The reason I asked this question about me being "okay" with dating an older woman, was reading a okcupid research article saying how most men compete for younger women, and there were guys in the comment section saying things like "Yeah if you can't get a younger woman its because you got priced out and you suck" I tried to not let it bother me but it did.
That as a statistic men chase younger women, and dating an older woman is looked upon as failing to be able to compete with other men. So far so good. He's not concerned about the difference at all. If you two really gel as a couple then people won't see a 5 year difference in your ages.
Yeah, I think you're probably too immature for this relationship, dude. Okay wait, you are making life decisions based on the internets comments section of a dating site article? Oh honey. Cut this shit out. Anyway, in my early-mid 30s I dated a guy very seriously for several years who was about four years younger.
The reasons it didn't work out had nothing to do with our age gap. Here's where it could potentially become an issue - if she wants to have children, she is facing a much steeper timeline than you are right now in life. Where two twentysomethings can wait and see where things go, maybe get married, maybe think about kids when it feels right - a couple in their 30's do have to face the reality that female fertility starts declining after So if you don't think you want kids in the next 10 years, and she does - the relationship can't work in the long run.
It sounds from your question and followups that you're focusing on a lot of superficial externals about how it might affect you rather than the heart of the matter - what is she looking for in you? Gwyneth Paltrow is five years older than Chris Martin.
Oct 09, † But perhaps the motliest part of this crowd is the ever-growing group of year-old single guys. If you want a case study in humanity, year-old single guys have pretty much all the bases covered. Let's examine some of the common types: 1) The Total Package. The Total Package is smart-he went to a top college. According to the rule, for example, a year-old should be with a partner who is at least 22, while a year-old's dating partner must be at least 32 to not attract (presumed) social sanction. Oct 15, † I am a year-old male heterosexual virgin. This is my deepest secret-the handful of times I've told anyone, I got such unmerciful teasing that I immediately regretted keitaiplus.com: Stoya.
I don't think there's anything wrong with you. I know if I were in her year-old shoes I would want to know if I was seeing someone who used the word "cougar" seriously in any non-feline context, let alone applied to how others might view our relationship, has no problem with a double standard, i. If she doesn't know, I suggest you tell her. She might chose to make this a non-issue for you. Re your question: A 26 year old guy, dating a 31 year old woman, is it okay? I think it's just fine if a 26 year old man is dating a 31 year old woman.
But, if we're talking about a 26 year old guyI'm not so sure. Just noticed that 15 comments have been posted since I started writing. I'm betting that I'm not the only one who is giving you grief about this question. Who do you want to date? Her or other men? It's a fine age gap for anyone.
Best of luck - you're gonna need it. I tried to not let it bother me but it did. OK, I'm here to tell you: lots of things get "looked upon as failings. You know the saying, "Haters gonna hate"? There you go. You, sincere internet stranger who is making a valiant effort to figure this out, are not a statistic. You may plug into some venn diagrams every once in a while, but the value judgements you make for your own time in life need not be unduly influenced by lying numbers or hype and spin or anything other than your own notion of where the ship you and only you are steering is headed.
It is weird in the sense that it's not typical and it is something some people might look down on you for. Does that make it bad or a bad idea? I don't think so, but that's your decision to make. What people might think of you as a couple is just one of many factors that go into deciding whether to pursue a specific relationship. It's not wrong to consider it, either, but talking about it in this particular way reinforces a lot of gross sexist norms so I suggest not bringing it up like this around other people or around this woman.
Why do you care what's "normal"? Why do you care what other people think about your prospective relationship, or what they might think about you on the basis of who you date?
While it's natural to wonder about the various consequences of a difference in age, I think your would-be sweetheart might be a bit taken aback to learn that you had to ask the Internet whether dating her would be "OK. Then of course there's the unnecessary stereotype that her being over 30 for five minutes means she is now turning at least some of her attention to baby-planning.
They haven't even gone on a date. I don't think kids need to be a factor in the dating process quite yet. I'm 26 years old and I've dated a number of women in their late 30s in the last few years.
It's never been any kind of issue. On the other hand, at the tender age of 26 I think of myself as a grown man and I wouldn't lower myself to taking advice from a bunch of bros in the comment section of a dating website so maybe our experiences are very different.
For what it's worth - not much, by the way - some women my own age have told me that the fact that I was dating a 40 year old raised their opinion if me. But you should not be using the identity of the person you date as a status symbol because it's repulsive. Someone 5 years older than you is not old enough to be your mother, so "MILF" seems quite a bit off. My sister-in-law and my ex-sister-in-law are both five or six years older than my brother, and I don't think either relationship has had, or had, any issues relating to their age difference.
I don't know what to say about your apparent internalized belief that men "should be" older than their female partners or they'll lose status, except a it's certainly a widespread cultural meme in lots of places, and b in my experience, cultural memes like that are usually obstacles to creating relationships that work for you, not for random TV gossip shows or shock jocks or whoever.
Since you are asking, and given the words you chose, she is too old for you. Older women tend to respect themselves more and have higher standards. In that sense dating an older woman reflects well on you. It's not. You've grown to love the nose you hated in high school, and are unapologetic about your annoying habits and quirks like being super indecisive about lunch.
Please, just no. Like I said, your dating standards will be higher. You have a good idea what your idea of Mr.
Im 25 dating a 30 year old
Right will look like. Meaning you're not going to waste your time on guys who don't fit the bill. Do you have a career you're obsessed with? Do we have similar hobbies or interest? Please, I have other things to do then to sit around all day wondering why he never texted me back.