Why are you going to visit dating sites for a married woman? What are you looking for? Why would a man date a married woman? For some people the answer is, in fact, obvious: they want just to get pleasure! There are men who are interested in dating married women, and you might be one of them.
Did I get sucked back into it with him? I am trying my hardest not to. It has not happened again as we discussed we need to have self-control and focus on our son plus he is still married. But our time together felt so right and so damn good.
But he is still married, he insists time will work everything out. He wants to be with me so bad. He questions why he married his wife instead of me.
He has 3 kids with her 16year old twin boys and a year-old boy. He sees them; maybe 3 times every few monthsI am unsure. He works a lot and his focus is providing for them. He wants me and my son in his lifehe insists we cannot get away from him again. He will find us wherever we go and intends to assert himself in our lives and take care of us the best he could.
He is not going to lose us again. He cannot give us up and forget us I have asked him to many times, I told him he needs to let us go and focus on his family. He cannot have 2 women and 2 families.
I deserve more! So I know how you all feel. I know what it is to love a married man. I have been crying maybe daily from the time Shawn has reappeared in my life. Feelings I had buried so deep and never dealt with. He has also resurrected feelings of love, kindness, warmth, understanding, friendshipall the good feelings we women long for from a man.
For now, I keep praying and begging God for strength to live daily and move forward and for answers. I am furthering my education and intend to complete the course very soon. I am planning my annual vacation and intend to take it with my son. I am considering migrating to another country that has better opportunities for my son. I am daily trying to focus on the positive and giving praise for blessings.
I am blessed - I have love from a man who loves me and refuses to not give up on me even if I give up on him, I got to experience love again with dinner, dancing, movie, gifts I treasure those memories so much, my son has a father and another grandmother and I have the love of God who understands me completely and forgives me when I mess up and saves me many times over.
Let us all pray for each other and keep each other in our thoughts. Loving a married man is extremely hard. God is our judge and whatever we do we have to face the consequences of our actions. Stay strong and blessed and positive. I am dating a married man. At first it was just an accidental fling. Then we started going away together. He takes me on all these weekend trips, pays for everything, and asks me to pretend to be his wife! Even people have commented on it.
I think he really likes you, my friends say. Talks about leaving his wife and I could fit in his family. I have been married and I do not want that at all. We have been seeing each other for 4 months every couple of weeks on these mini vacations.
Wondering when I will see him next! Your wish to be with your ex again or heal your broken relationship can be possible through a love spell. I've been on again off again with a man for 24 years. I'm married, but just till our son is raised, everyone involved knows this.
I've pushed the other man away time and again because he was never open about having feelings for me, then he comes back into my life again as he's planning on getting married. I again avoid him, but one month before his wedding we get together, he claims he's loved me, still does but is still getting married. Now that he is married I have issues with it, being a newlywed is way different than two people biding time. I know I need to for my own good, he can't possibly love two women.
I'm an idiot. Why don't you go dating a single and available man? Stop wasting your valuable time with married man. SO not worth it.
Get out. Big mistake - he's is fooling you, using you, taking advantage of you and looks! Well, if you choose to date a married man - I would say DON'T - but if you do - go ahead and have a boyfriend.
At least it's the back up plan. So many of people get hurt over relationship with a married man and yet, no matter how many times people give you advice over and over again It's easier said than done. However, he is the one that lost a person that truthfully loves him. It's you. Use your valuable time and self -respect to open the door for whom he is truthfully available and appreciate you.
I'm in love with a married man after 10 years of his unhappy and sexless marriage he wants to marry me, he has a baby girl but that too not by love making but by giving his sperm i dnt knw the name of the process He told his family and wife that he can't live this way all his life he want divorce but his family n wife said divorce is not an option, try to adjust in marriage!! Its being 1 year now we tried to leave each other but its really hard for us. Now his wife said she cn give divorce but that also not sure till now but are we doing right with his wife n daughter?
M i the reason? Butbi also think i did nothing he wanted divorce anyway he was not happy in his marriage he also want love and happiness. But again Im feeling bad for his wife and family, im soo confused!!! Please help. Yes am dating a married men, but I always feel like am being used for sex these no future between us but I live him. What must I do? Like hundreds of women here, I have been dating a married man but for 6years.
His kids are now 18, his daughter is off to college, his son attends college but lives at home yet he shows no effort in moving forward with his plans to leave his wife, sell his house, or introduce me to any of his friends. Never had I thought that I would be in this type of predicament. I appreciate you all putting yourselves out there and sharing.
I have been dating amarried man for two yrs now. Because it's two years now but he pays for me tuition and I want to continue with my studies. What does a man do that has been married for a long time and she refuses to have sex with him ,yet threatens and has attempted suicide at the suspicion of him having an affair. He is trapped. Is it still wrong? He has needs and this is totally unfair. I wish women would just not do this.
It's wrong and crappy. My friend did it but I kind of resent that she would not care about his family. I was a single parent and was just looking for someone to love and care for me and my daughter. I ended up meeting this wonderful guy at my job and unfortunately he was married.
After that we ended up together and having a child together. If I could do it all over again I would definitely do things differently. It makes me very sad to hear that so many woman are tangle in a mess like this. I wish I had family and friends who could of given me better advice and maybe things would of been differently for me. Its sad that man even to this day still have the power to do what they want and not take full responsibility for there actions. I hope that this would help all of you who are struggling with the decision that I had to make.
I will pray for all of you who are struggling with this choice. Hi guys, I need advice here. About a month ago I went to a birthday party and ended up with one of the attendants. He is 20 years older than me. He has come to visit me as he is from another country as I met him whilst on holiday. After a full month texting and talking via Whatsapp he booked a flight to come and visit me.
The 2nd day he was here in my house, I asked a lot of questions and asked him if he was married; he had no choice but to tell me the truth. I feel awful and I don't know what to do. He says that he is going to end the marriage and that he had not had sex with her for years although he said that he did one year ago? I am confused dot com. I am in my late 30s and he is in his late 50s. I dated a married man for 2 years and still he's making excuse to leaves his wife, but I still loves him.
Now i tried to get out but I just don't know how. Maybe this is how stupid I am. Being stupid means " see the truthknow the truth but still believe the lies. He was my colleague with a much higher position than me. We start exchanging text messages for a month before we met each other and end up slept together.
I told him I will not ask for him to leave his partner, I said I would understand if he wants to stop all these one day. And then after 2 months of flirting and texting daily, he suddenly went quiet.
I texted him 2 days after not receiving anything from him. He said he felt overwhelmed by guilt to his partner, and he does not to continue cause it will cause me more pain if we carry on longer than that. I actually started to cry reading your letter.
You and I are so similar. The part at the end - where you say "He has filled my life with the utmost joy of love and kindness. Please tell me how to break this off so he can make pertinent decisions in his life and live whole with his wife. Or leave her and take a chance with me! I pray God gives you and I grace and strength to do what is best for us: XO. Or who are.?
I was petrified to even date on any level being that my current relationship basically ended in a total war zone. I love this man yet as of late I am feeling that I should not put any effort into it since he has not made the move to divorce his wife They do not cohabitate together yet on occasion he flies to where she is and visa versa.
I feel completely lost with this because when my marriage was over I did not make one effort to fly anywhere to see him. I do not know how to express this to him without him calling or texting throwing me a rope to hold on to.
If a man is married leave him alone. There is no making it worth your while. If he truly loves his wife and his kids, you will end up getting hurt. Also, I don't know if you believe in karma, but when you finally do find that guy who you think you want to marry, he will probably do this same crap to you.
Shushyamouth, sorry but that man does not love you. He loves what you do for his ego. He loves the luxury of fun and no true responsibility to you.
I'm not saying he doesn't like you. But if he truly cared about you, he would respect you too much to let this go on. Everyone please love yourself enough to know that you deserve better. That man's wife deserves better.
And he deserves to be punched in the head. I guess I feel different from most of you. He works hard, provides for his family. We are friends, lovers, peers. I talk to him about sexual issues he has with his wife and actually stick up for her when he is wrong. I absolutely do not expect him to pay my bills or buy me a house, I think that is ridiculous.
Ladies support yourself, stop thinking he will leave because the percentage of that is not in your favor. You will be very lonely if you continue to put your life on hold for him. Either accept the situation or bounce. I for one am involved with a married man. But in my case i was with him even before he married that woman. I've been with him longer than his wife has. I found out that he was 4 months married in our 5th year. I was utterly shuttered. Thinking that i gave up everything for him and still he sees me as nothing.
He managed to convince me to stay with him. They renewed their vows and i was still there. The very same day they renewed their vows he kept on texting me. He even came to my house on the very same night of the whole ceremony and slept over. He doesn't promise me to break it off with her instead its like he wants me to become the second wife.
Unless that's just to cover up the fact that i am unimportant to him. What kills me the most is that my entire family knows about him and my mother loves him a lot because he has been with me through the toughest times of my life, especially when my mother was extremely sick So i kinda feel locked to him only cause of that.
He has also introduced me to his family except the mother. I honestly don't know what to do. Im in relationship with married man since 3 years. He has two children and wife and they are very far. But we are staying together. He is always with me in ny happiness and sorrow. He helps me a lot. The reality is, he can't marry with me he id loyal with his family. Im in confusion what kind of love it is? It is true love or fake. I feel happy when he is with me.
It is sure that we won't be together forever because he can't leave his babies and wife. So, how can I separate from him? Or is this love or what? My husband and I were trying to qualify for a mortgage loan and two of the bureaus are not providing a score, I have purchased things with credit off and on for the past 5 years so I suspect that somehow they have mixed up with someone else.
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I was with him for a year, and it has been only a month since we last talked because i knew my relationship with him is not going to go anywhere at the end of the day. Our relationship involves being apart from time to time due to him studying in Queensland. His five year relationship girlfriend lives across the world with him, and I am miles away from him whenever he goes to study.
It is very difficult because I had to accept that. Yes, i loved him, but I lost myself while i did. I even went to the extent of going against my own principals because i was too vulnerable and there were too much void to be filled. When i was honest about the fact that i was slept with another man, once, he flipped.
He said my love was empty, i didnt know how to love to begin with. How about him. He disrespected me verbally in any way he could just because he was angry. Was I wrong? I guess I wronged myself, but did i wrong him? But our times together are very lovely. We call it our magical bubble because it was a very secretive relationship. I believed that he loved me too, and that gave me the courage to stay. He was like my legitimate boyfriend when i was with him.
That's why i believed. I believed that it wasn't only because of sex. But is it really though? I guess what i did during that long period of time being with him was being indenial. I was indenial about the circumstances, I go against the ones who goes against me. Everything that was said to me is ugly, but it was what i needed to hear at that time. It worked for three weeks. But the last week before he left, i couldn't help it but to spend my last moments with him.
I lost, he won. Despite the fact of knowing the truth about me sleeping with another guy before, he continued sleeping with me. Yes he was angry, but not for so long.
So did he really care or not care? But he claimed that his love for me is extraodinary. He loved me to the point to where whatever i did was the past and what exists is the love he has to me. So what should i believe. Should I be happy that he doesn't have this sort of grudge against me?
The truth is, i guess he couldn't care less. When he was away from me, the only thing in particular that we talked about was, sex! And the conclusion was to those who advised me proved me wrong. No matter how much i believe on how special we are, and that bubble was worth to keep, its not.
It's the same for every other relationship out there. To whoever who happens to read this, don't be the victim of that man. Be a survivor and fight out of it, not fight through it with him. The process of healing may be long, but always remember why you'd even start being a third party. The process is never smooth.
You may be happy with him, but you're more sad that you are actually happy. Don't end up loosing yourself, like how i did once. A married man is bad enough. Im in so deep i cant think of anyone else and cant imagine a future other than my job.
I became a manager and im so high with the sense of importance i cannot leave. He is extremely sweet and caring on some days, extremely aloof on others. His wife is always around and his kids are too young to understand divorce. He says he wishes he could just leave her but hes scared of losing his kids. He made it very clear at the start that im not allowed to fall in love but now he doesnt seem to hold onto it. He wont accept other girls hes attracted to to work so i wont get jealous which used to be the only thing needed to get accepted.
He seems to care a lot about me and is a very desirable man, although he seems to push off women at the last six months. I care too much about him. Hes really fucked up inside amd i really feel like i understand him like no one else does. Dont get into it. Sooner or later you cant leave and you end up hurting every single day. I have so many mixed emotions. I read all of your post IDK what 2 do. Im the one that has always had her guard up.
I have been hit on by so many married men and have told them were 2 stick there d!!! But out of nowhere a family friend I grew up with and we both had past feelings with along time ago. So when he hits me up and how happy he was that he found me. And asked me if i was single. I said yes. I then asked him. I was like then why fuck with me And thats were it went wrong. That he felt butterflies. Im like same here.
WTF why why why. I have always been this strong women and feminist And NO I have not slept with him I am afraid that it will be harder 2 let go. Back then we did. I can just Imagine after we have sex There is this married man that has been asking me out for close to 3 months now. He has 2kids. He shows me love, care and he is always there for me. I already have a boyfriend who is very far from me and will not see each other for years.
Am so attached to this man and am falling in love with him. Am confused. Need an advice. Well, here's my question if you dating a married man and he wants you be his second wife, what do you do? When I read those messages. I am gay, and have dated the married man for like a year. He told me the lie in the beginning that he was in the progress divorcing wife, because he wasn't happy and finally found someone me who makes him happy. I believed him and decided to keep going on with him.
But after a few months I met a few friends of his and his ex girlfriend. They said that he've always been like that to other females or males behind his wife for many years. I wasn't the first person who he played behind his wife. I found out that there's a few people were waiting for him, because he told them lie that he's going to divorce her.
I know the lady, I never met her, but my married man went to her and told her to block me via facebook which is fine. He also admitted me that she was waiting over 4 years on him I thought he solved everything and closed the closure so he can be with me, but I was wrong. In the end, I decided to close between us and told him I can not be able to keep seeing him. I still love him, but it isn't same. I am tired of being side, tired of living lie when nobody knows that I'm seeing him, and cannot just waiting for him all the time.
Like holidays Thanksgiving, Christmas he tend to spend with his family like nothing has happened. It sucks, but I am glad it's over now. When I went through old pictures of us, I don't think he's that cute or handsome anymore. I see the real colors and happy that I got out before too late. He even admitted that he's always looking for sex when I didn't give him for a while.
That is not loyal guy. I can find someone who's single and would be loyal. I can understand that having intercourse is a plus, but I want a real thing the relationship that everybody know, instead living in the lie with a married man. Trust me on this, I know it is frigging hard but in the long run, you'll be glad you did it.
Now I've been gone out with my friends, and went out on date with some guys. I love my current life. I'm good! Dating a Married man was one of my lesson experience, and I know that I'll never want to date other Married man ever again. Don't do it.
Just don't. I'm 5 years in and cry almost every day. I'm too sucked in to leave. The jealously is unbearable and always second guessing how he feels about me. It hurts so bad. Tired of crumbs. I deserve the entire loaf. I have been seeing this seeing this man, am 29 and he is 40, he is married with 2kids, his wife is in Eastern Africa with his kids he visit them Every after two months, he is so nice to me and claime to love me so much but have no plans of divorce and he love his wife.
Any advices for me? I have the same situation with Darleen I'm in a relationship with a married man for almost 2 years and he even hurting me for several times and he even abort my baby without a permission. In Taiwan it was legal to do it. He is 43 and I'm 23 years old. He always lying to me and I know he even slept with his wife even though he always denying it.
How I wish I can let go of this kind of situation. May God guide me for everything and give me strength to face it. There's this married man that has been asking me out for the past 5 months now but I keep turning him down because I never planned to date a married man in my life but he is a good and nice man and he can give any time i asked him for something he doesn't hesitate I'm confused i don't know what to do because I have a boyfriend already.
Am worried and asking myself questions because i love this guy though i came to know that he was married and when i asked him,he said they separated but had a son with her.
He always pursue me when i decide to let go of the relationship out of the arguments we always have. I been with him 10 months Since last year Aug 18 and I found out he married on March I didn't know he had a gf and now she become his wife. He never invited me to his place, reason - he has a housemate and he told me he will ask him to move then I could go his place.
I saw a woman drove home and went into his house. I knocked the door I love him not because of he is a director, money, position. I love him, day by day, month by month Love is blind He destroy me Married man is scary I though he doesn't has love and I gave to him I don't even has a choice or right to choose to be a 3rd party I been with him 3 years he keeps promising me a future but as time goes on he got married to her had a baby and still says he loves me and wants me I been sleeping alone for 3 years how is this love I feel in love with a married man why he was not married when I got with him how do men love a women and make them sleep alone he takes care of me but I am hurting always thinking he messing with her or is he telling the truth he says he sleeps on the couch he there for the kids now I am on birth control and she has the baby his promises to me he gave her this is not his first time doing this to her he had a kid with someone else and they are still together.
I feel in love with a married man in We never did anything about it - his feelings for me were the same. I moved out of town because I didn't want to have any part of it but was crushed.
He emailed me that he left his wife and said his marriage had been strained for years. Months later when I got off my work assignment overseas I came back to be with him. My friends all told me it would be a disaster.
It has been 7 years now that we have been married and we are more in love with each other than when we first met. I am the luckiest woman on the planet.
Some things were meant to be. We met 6years ago while traveling, he jumped in to protect me in one uncomfortable situation. He then invited to travel with them, I refused as I was afraid of him traumas from my past, I never said that to him then or after We connected on social media, almost no contact, living in different parts of world. I'm a rape and almost every other kind abuse, long-term survivor. He doesn't know anything of that.
Then in few months I travel to another country to meet him this was 2. They all like me. After couple of months I travel to meet him 4.
He never initiated anything physical again after 3. He wants to be with me, isn't after sex. When they came I wrote him in sense to not ignore me or I cut him off forever and he answered, didn't want to lose me.
I hug him, we should kiss, I run away. He was never rude. In this field I'm a ruin, handicapped. Years ago I decided to live in complete celibacy forever. After that last time 5months ago I understood I really can't live like that anymore, hurting someone I love.
A week ago by complete chance I found out on social media that he got married this May, they are about 10years together already, no kids, engagement last May we met 2times after it. Now we had talked just 2days before, he was the same happy to see me in one week again, as usual.
I asked him about, he confirmed. And for 1. I wrote that I wish him only Happiness in life, and to not hug other women as if he'd want to be with them. No answer.
We never even kissed, but he understood when we met 2. My friend then wrote him message if he understands what damage he did to me with his little game. I still can't get over him. I don't want to be used for sex only then thrown away, it happened not once in past. I don't want sex with him as long as he is married. I don't want to hurt anyone, especially not me. I don't wish anything bad to his family, they are good people and we his brother, some very close friends are kind of friends.
Last time we met I said to him that in this year for few months I want to move to his city to learn the language, he was shocked but then invited me. I am dating am in love with a married man now I don't know what to do cause he has me in his other place and wont let me go out unless I am with him but he gave me the story cause he is keeping me safe and out of what I want and need to do but he said a lot and did a lot to get me now I do more for him than he does for me and I am always alone and before he was always want to go places with me and have fun with me and I know he tells her lies and now he is lying to me too how do I get out before I get hurt more.
You only said one side of the story - did you have an affair with her? You know Are you also playing game with her - believe me - Karma. What if she kill herself because of you? You think you are not guilty in this game of two? So don't be cruel to people play with their emotions. You laughed at her because she is in love with you and you are in a healthy state after all this? If you are looking for married man for dating then you have many online dating website where you can find married partner for dating.
You have findchix. I hope everyone here is getting STD tested on a regular basis because if a married man will go behind his spouse's back for sex another woman mistress, affair partner, wacko on the prowl And yes, I was the wife who had to go through the humiliation and TERROR of STD testing and he did too when his affair came out because of course and most do they threw caution to the wind and didn't use protection.
I hope the women posting here as the "eager and willing affair partners" could experience the pain even for one day of being the betrayed spouse and see the look on their devastated children's faces when they realize that dadd is lying and manipulating and willingly destroying their family for his own pathetic and selfish purposes.
Why don't these men just leave their wives? Because they are having their cake and eating it too Or reveal the affair themselves. Anyone, with any IT experience, can find it. Men rarely leave their wives for affair partners because most are pussies and can't be the agents of change or truth. They'd rather lie, manipulate and gas light their wives and probably their affair partners too than be true men and speak their truth: they want out of a marriage or an affair relationship or both.
They sometimes think they are doing less damage than if they asked for a divorce So ladies ask yourselves And don't think one word you are hearing about his wife is true Don't get me started?
I hope you are laughing cause that IS marriage! Oh and don't forget the sexy bills, taking kids to doctor or ER in middle of night for emergency or dealing with aging parents.
Honestly, grow up ladies. Stop helping to wreck these women's lives and realize these men are using you!!! Faced with the certainty of losing their family life which also helps their income level!
Hope this has given you all something to mull about when you are inviting a married man to help betray his wife, children and extended family thru the charade of an affair. Get yourself a real relationship. Just some thoughts from the other side.
And again, just please Hi all i am separated for 3 years now. I loved my husband we have 2 kids, but he left me for a much younger girl. I have been on and off in relationship with men both married and single,until i met this man. He told me at the onset that he was married. I really didn't have issues with that bcos i loved him. I found out lately that he is cheating on me with other women apart from his wife.
I really am mad at him and want to leave but i still really love him. What should I do? I need advice help me ladies. I have been with this sweet caring loving married man. However I keep making degrees back to him every time I try a new relationship I end up back with him because I honestly love him so much.
And he loves me. Never said anything bad about her. He tells me he loves me and how he marry because at the time he went through awful relationships and needed a life. I need to decide if I should stay and stop running or leave and never look back. How do I prepare for either decisions? He has 2 twins a boy and a girl they are into freshman in high school.
His wife knows about me. We see each other a lot and we text every day all day.
Do I just give up. We are going away in a few months for the first time together but he has a work meeting too. You should get out. He may not even be who he says he is. You haven't met him face to face. You haven't been intimate so no loss. Let him go before you find it impossible to. Trust me. Im 4 years in and cant walk away. Ive been dating a single mom of two for two years.
In the begining it was just her and myself then me, her and the girls. OMG they are soo darling. I attend some of her family functions like xmas dinner, birthdays and what not. My marriage has been in termoil way before my affair. We have a son in college and in debt up to our eyeballs. My wife and I sleep in seperate rooms now for almost three years and no we do not have sex we have tried but our bodies will not respond to each other.
I know if I leave home this woman will accept me in her life but I will be so finacially disturbed how can I help her and her children. I know thats not my responsibility but those girls OMG. Shit or get off the pot I guess My husband passed away after 40 years of marriage. Maybe something was missing but i got involved with my married Chiropractor who has been married for 25 years and has 2 adult children and we began a sexual affair.
We met two or three times a month at my house but after 6 months I had decided to end our fake relationship. He liked having access to me and i was a breath of fresh air in his busy mundane life. He had never cheated before and often expressed guilt.
He really was a good man. Fact: he was not available to me and i was wasting my time on someone who could never be there for me. I broke it off, without a word. Blocked his number Cold turkey. He will never value me or appreciate what he had with me so it was time to let go. He violated his ethics and his vows and couldn't justify it. I didn't want to ruin his life either. I'll be fine. From now on I will measure the quality of every man who comes into my life and if any of them are like my late husband i won't let them go.
I care a lot for him as he does me. I care a lot for him. And from the beginning was very honest about his relationship with his spouse who he has gone through a lot with and not in a good way either. Not sure to continue or wait to see what could be. Slightly meaning we live many many miles apart.
West coast vs East Coast. The chemistry we have is crazy I know he loves his kids and spouse but he says the pull here is real.
Of course intimacy has not happened but he has talked about one day hoping to hold me and hold a face to face deep conversation Help anyone? He was living with his roommate who has children. He slept on the couch. Funny huh? Well this past weekend I called because he was home with his daughter and she went out.
I had lost my house keys, he never answered my calls to help me as he had a key to my home. His wife was. I talked with her and she started asking questions. I told the truth, now I am the person who ruined his whole life.
He never even liked me as so he says. But yet 4 to 5 days a week he came took me to dinner, stayed here in my bed having sex with me. Telling me he was going to leave just not now. I was controlled with who I could talk to, what I can say. Please if you are in a relationship with a married man get out before he destroys your heart.
He was so loving to me. Took care of me. Told me how much I meant to him. But now I meant absolutely nothing to him and this was my fault. Just as stated, yes indeed she told me he was sleeping in her bed and yes they were having sex. All Lies since the first day we met. Please get out and save your heart and soul. It is so painful to be told all the horrible truths. I thought he was different than others that cheat.
But truly he is the worst kind of married man anyone can meet. I love this article so very much. So true that you find yourself rejected and left alone when you put everything in the same basket for a married man. If your married men are real and have been honest with you from the beginning and treated you as top priority compared to his family. Made you laughed, the most happiest person in the world and would discussed whenever you face problems. Would you consider to keep the relationship?
Not all married men are brutal liars. Men heart are bigger than women for sure. One is for real love and one for family and status. There are commitment and divided responsibilities to ensure how the society look at them.
Sounds weird but that's the facts. Just make sure they are not sleeping together. This topic should also differentiate true and genuine married men Vs those heartless men who uses their loved ones for own desire and selfish motives.
Some men have also invested heavily when comes to long term emotions and impact when the time comes I liked some of this until the BS about making a man pay for you or support you. How dare you demean women and make them think the only thing they deserve is cash. They are not hookers. I met this guy in a foreign country. He asked me out, and I was instantly drawn to him before he even spoke to me.
We had coffee. I asked straight up if he was married or had kids. He said he was separated and had two adult children. When he said separated I thought literally separated like they are no longer together but not yet divorced.
I had to go back to my country. We kept in touch. I wish in an instant, we can end the affair. Right now I feel like I am in a dark path and I am feeling really sad and lost. I am unhappy in my marriage; the husband and I are not even intimate anymore and I have no love for him. I do not want this life. I want a happy life. If I file for a divorce my kids will be affected and they will be sad of course. I would rather be a single mom and happy, than be in this marriage and unhappy.
Similar situation, my MM left me in shit and pay cut at work as I fought for him. Not doing good, lots of tears, even in public now having to hide them behind sunglasses. Through my difficult time, I visualize things to help me understand. Part of my job requires me to walk some distance, and during this pandemic, I have had lots of time to talk to myself, write and heal.
Honestly, in April, I felt like I was dragging a crumbling little building behind me, that I had to retreat into a lot!! To cry, go crazy, grieve hard and remember every detail of my relationship. Dissecting each event, lie, lovemaking, laughter, stories, hopes and loss. By mid to late May, it was a roll up tent that I lugged around on my backgoing into to cry and grievelighter, but still there.
Mid June, it was a backpack full of wisdom, tools, things I had figured out, anger, forgiveness and understanding. I have joined this club, and of all the blogs I have stumbled upon, I am finding some peace here, along with some painful and stark realizations. So many variables in human relationships.
I want to share my story, and as a writer, I have written so many pages. We did not date, or become very close friends, but he was around. I did always recall, though, that we had sex one day, a this house.
I could never recall the details, or if it was during, or after, high school. After we re-connected, he did tell me that he asked me to skate once, and I blew him off. OK, probably 8th grade. Also, I declined a date once to a football game. I date the same guy, mostly, through school, and a few others along those years. I helped plan our 40th reunion inand he was on my list of classmates to contact about the reunion, and the FB page we set up.
He never responded, nor did he come to the reunion. So, 6 months later, he sent me a FB friend request. Catching up. For weeks, I never asked about his marital status, nor did he ask me.
It seems like we both just assumed we were single people. Anyway, He was very attentive, and one day, he asked if I wanted to meet for a beer, and catch up in person. Short message was marriage was over. I was not attached to that at all, it was just his story of life as we were re-connecting. It even took awhile-and I asked-to know if he had any kids. He said they have a 27 year-old son. When we parted way that evening, I was glad to have seen him no one brough up the sex day that night!
I was up for it, still not considering it a date. I have many male friends, including a few from high school, and who live in town, and I see sometimes.
So, this felt the same, and an extension of re-connecting with people from school. I had fun. The next week, he wanted to go out again. That night, he came in,and hung out. One thing I already knew, after looking at his FB page after accepting his friend request, was that he had had some kind of religious life. I do not. At all. But, the religious thing was on my mind.
He never talked about it.
But he does work in a church as the operations guy, and I knew that during out meeting for a beer. That was cool. Especially since the tables were turned-was a joke-about how I had no interest in him during school! I want to give all the girls and women and men if there are any an outlook. You guys, it gets better!
There will be a day where you realise, I am actually ok without them. Maybe even better. The fog we are all in, the feelings we have really blur our vision. We think there is no love like that again.
We think there is never again somebody like that. Or you are at a stage where you resent being with them a lot. All this can get better. You can get better. This whole situation can be put in a box and diminished. Made smaller and then stored in your attic. Not sure if you can ever get rid of it, or should even, but the feelings can be closed away and there is a way out. My heart goes out to all the ladies that have been hurt so deeply by this.
The ones that were promised things, the ones that had hope, the ones that have been in this for so long! I wish I could help you all by dragging you away just a little so you can see and heal. We somehow believe that we must give up and suffer a little for love, but that is not what love is. Love never hurts. Love heals.
Nov 21, So, you want to know how to date a married man? Don't. It's really that simple. If you have eyes for a married guy, you're probably sitting here looking for every excuse under the sun to rationalize what you're thinking of doing. But here's the cold, hard truth: pursuing a married man isn't worth it. Here's why. A Cheater Doesn. Why don't you go dating a single and available man? save you so much more troubles down the road. Stop wasting your valuable time with married man. SO not worth it. Get out. Dating a married man is one of the WORST experience you can do to yourself.
And I wish we could all experience this love that is greater than the feelings we have for these men. That women are so much more in general than being swallowed up by a toxic dependency like that. We have so much heart, intuition, strength and wisdom we could nurture the whole world, if we could just see, that we are more than what happens in relationships. Just look at these statements here. Look at all the women here and around the world. There is more than what you are all feeling right now.
Even if it is the good times with the mm. Beautiful post Francis.
I forget that my value and worth is not defined by my relationship status. Filling a void with something toxic is sheer suffering and suffering is an option. The law of the universe says no wrong action gets a right result. You may ask yourself the existential question, what is wrong and right?
There are desirable and undesirable outcomes and a whole range in the middle. I did it myself with a foolish notion that filling the void with an obvious wrong option would make me feel better. It sent me into a horrible shame spiral. Yep, tonight, I am lonely. I just left the store to get things for a day with my elderly Mom tomorrow.
I saw couples shoppingsome looked miserablesome happy. I long so much for a loving man of my own. I am making it a goal. I just cried about 8 tears and I feel better. I hope your holiday is not terrible and you have some joy and peace.
Hi guys, I have been commenting a couple of times here, but it seems my last comment was lost. So I have been out of the relationship with the MM for about half a year now. Or as safe as can be. We have been together for about 2 years.
Including me being pregnant from him big drama and heartbreak.
I have been at my lowest during these years. I quit and leaped back. But you can check out my other comments. I still work with him, which made it extra hard it feels. This page has helped me a lot and I want to give back. I really had wished for a person to talk to and help me during the tough times.
So please contact me if you like: iamokfrancis yahoo. Not even an automated message! Hey everyone! Question for the ladies that have actually been able to leave and follow through with no contact. I guess you could say break up and be done. What was the deciding factor in finally leaving? What caused you to leave him? I ask myself what will it take for you to be done, done! What has to happen. As many of us are. Looking for some hope.
Hello, I totally understand what you mean! I wondered when I would finally be finished with it all tooafter six years of tears, lies and broken promises!
He lives with his wife that is says is nothing more than a roommate. He sleeps in his own room and we slept together on Skype every night, fell asleep talking to each other. He lives far away, but we always manage to get together several times a year. He cones here, or I go there.
We always found a way! He told me last summer, that he had done it, asked his wife for a divorce no kids involved on his end. He has been in my life, as well as my kids lives now they are adults and I really believed him!
Fast forward a week later, he chickened out! I was heartbroken and so disappointed! He told me this past fall, he was going to leave her for sure and be with me! He told me they are putting their house up for sale, etc.
He told me I can tell my family and friends. In October he flew me out to California to meet his family and friends. One of his best friends was dying and he wanted us to meet.
We did and I met everyone important in his life and he told everyone we would be together! Then Christmas came and for the first time since I met him, we finally spent the holidays together. I actually pinched myself to see if it was all real! He stayed with my kids and I and we had an amazing time!
By this time, everyone knew we would be together and all of my friends and family were So happy for me! He had to leave to go home the day after new years prescription needed to be refilled. He left behind a lot of items he brought to leave here, since he would be coming back soon! When he was getting ready to leave, I had a really bad feeling and said I feel like I wont ever see you again and I started crying.
He told me I was silly, he would be back! He took their house off of the marketsome excuse about needing to paint it in the spring, etcexcuse after excuse! I was soooo upset! I felt like this was a bad nightmare! I am so hurt and humiliated! I am also done! He has brought my kids into it and has hurt and disappointed them also! I told him I was finished and wished him a good life and totally blocked and removed him on everything! I am sad and miss him and cry a lot, but this time he went to far!
He really made us and everybody else think that we would be together and be a family! Who does that? I told him that this was one of the most cruel things I have ever seen him do and he is not the man I think he is! Yes it still hurts, but every time i feel weak thinking about him, I just stop and remember who he really isthe liar, cheater, a fraud!
He is not the person he pretended to be when he used me to escape his unhappy marriage. He is a heartless user and has probably found someone else to fill the void! Please be strong and move on, he made my life unhappy, many more times than he made it happy! You are asking what it takes to really quit.
I asked myself that many times, too. I asked myself how much more I am going to take. And to be honest. It just took me some time to breathe. To get some distance to see that everything that had happened was already more than enough. Or your heart to show you the way. It will always feel good to be with them.
You will still be hooked. Treat it like an addiction. Because that is really what it is. I wrote down how I feel. Dissect the whole relationship. Try to keep the feelings down. Even if they feel good.
Go day by day. Even if it feels super shitty. It is an addiction. The less contact the better. And I also mean mental. No sentimental feeling. No sad songs. Ignore it. I tried to pretend it never happened. I played the life and person I want to be. So long, that my brain rewired. It is still hard. But him saying he has feelings and not acting to be with you is enough. Him touching another woman is enough.
Him cheating on his wife shows what type he is. Would this be a future. Do you want to be his wife and know what he is capable of. There is no future. You being on this website is enough.
It takes strength and the understanding. And to get to that point you really need to outsmart this addiction. In that moment I feel strong and telling myself I could do this. I could walk away. All my positive thoughts go out the window the moment I see him. So many highs and lows. Life is to short. I know in my heart and mind I need to end things. And I need to stop texting back or answering the door.
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I take my blame in the situation. I need to dig deep and do some soul searching. And be done! Winonag, you can email me if you need to. Hi ladies! I am feeling really down right and I am very thankful for this website because at least I can vent here. I am at work but barely able to work. I am confused, hurt, sad, in pain and lost being in this affair with the MM who I know is not good for me. But no matter what I tell myself, I cannot bring myself to end it with him.
Our affair is fairly new so the highs are still there. We do not live in same city so we are somewhat long distance, which makes it even harder for me. How do I feel about it? And I am not at all expecting that me and the MM will end up together. I see no future for me and the MM; our affair is just that - affair and nothing else.
Rite now, I am happy he is in my life and he helps fill the void. However, he also makes me sad because I feel so attached to him and i want him all the time, but of course I know the situation. If my marriage ends, i know my kids will be devastated and will be heart broken. I may need counseling. Has anyone here had their marriage end because of the affair discovery? Or did you stay together after the end of the affair? How did you move on after the end of the affair? How do you continue moving on?
I am so afraid of the sadness and pain i will feel when my affair with the MM is over. It is so hard that you cannot talk to your sister or friend about the affair. I cannot tell anyone, so now i unfortunately suffer alone and i wish i had someone to talk to especially when i am feeling so down.
Hi Winonag. Well I never been married but reading your post you are more concern about everybody but really yourself? I think with your marriage you should really talk to your husband seek some marriage counseling so if you do decide on a divorce at lease you can say I tried before you just away and talk to your kids too if they older even to understand?
Because if your not happy I guarantee you your children know it and husband too. Now the married man situation I know all about that because I was a mistress too for 7 yrs lady in waiting too. With a married man there is no getting around the heartbreak that eventually is coming you just gotta let your Heartbreak and and let the pain flow because weather you stay with him for 20 yrs!
He will start to ignore your texts and phone call and maybe go M.
Apr 08, First off, this situation is EXACTLY why I warn women about the dangers of dating a separated man. And why I encourage you to avoid men who have not been divorced for at least a year. (Same thing goes for women too.) Before you enter the next dating situation, be sure to ask the man how long he's been divorced. You know it's wrong to be having an affair with another woman's husband, but you can't seem to let him go. These tips on how to stop dating a married man will help heal your broken heart. I also share encouragement from a woman who broke up with a married husband; it hurt her to walk away from him, but she's happy and healthy now. The main thing that you should remember is that you need to do that with a sense of dignity and tact, remaining a man and a person. If you know about some features that will not allow you to break up peacefully, then don't ask yourself, "Should I date a married woman?" and better look for someone else. The Main Drawbacks. Possible exposure.
A on you there is No Happy Endings. I say pray to God that he removes you from this affair and give to the strength you need going forward. Stay strong! My story- I had been grieving the death of my guy of 14 years for 3 years when MM happened along.
I felt an attraction and a spark that had been dormant during my 3 years of healing. I thought God had sent him my way. He is too. Next time, I will. After seeing him maybe 5 or six times at work, I knew his assignment would be ending, so I took a leap and asked if he would want to get together sometime.
He said yes. Lots of texts everydaydates, romance I was super happy. He seemed so happy too. I think I made him feel desired, young, freean escapea secret. He said things though, that led me to believe we had a future together. I think we were both infatuated and enjoying life. My house is modest. I wanted to learn about his interests and be part of them, but I felt inadequate or not sophisticated enough.
I felt on the outside and that other people would impress him moreas time went on. The pandemic kept him home and texting got less and less. I broke it off soon after finding out. It has been 2 full months of hard work for me to get over him. A learning experienceseeing how addictive and devastating this is. I have not talked to him since we parted by text. I am nosyand I want to know if he is a serial cheater or if I was the firstalso if she found out.
Would he even tell me the truth? He hurt me. If it had gone on longer, it would have taken me down even more. In my dream world, we would have loved each other and been best friends for the rest of our lives, but I think it might have lasted a few years, maximum. I have thought about seeing him for the sex part onlyIt was intoxicating.
It would take me right back into the bad situation. Before, I was innocent as a girlfriend. Mich, I can only suggest that you read some of the many stories below to try to figure out what might be happening. I am glad you found this group of people mostly women who have experienced so much and share advice, pain. I still come here for support, even though I think I am done with him.
Here are a few quotes that I found and liked. Picked myself back up and wiped my own tears. I have grown from things meant to break me. I get stronger by the day and I have God to thank for that. Make them wonder how you are still smiling. Hey Ladies, who wants to create a life with your MM and is always questioning whether he will leave his wife for you?
Yet, I cannot seem to leave him or forget him or ignore him. Being in this situation sucks. And yet again, I cannot seem to get out. I love when we talk and just talk nonsense and all that, but when I do not hear from him, I am super sad. I want to get over him but I cannot even end the affair; not yet.
I should know better. Love makes u do stupid things; you really go blind. This is not love. He is wasting your time. I saw a MM for 2 years and 9 months. He lied on Day 1 stating his marriage was over and moving out. Only during the pandemic did he move out of the marital home to care for his blind father. Yet kept going back to fix things and even took a family trip with his wife and adult kids and grandkid. But kept lying to my face that he would file for divorce.
Yet said I was his true love and escape from the bills and reality of her and his dependent adult kids. After many attempts at leaving him.
He would have meltdowns and bombard me with calls and texts and emails. I threw out all of his items and gifts in my home.
I changed my mattress and got new bed sheets, quilts and lamps. I ended face to face with MM. Started convo only with other men on dating apps and told MM. Also made clear that I would file a police report if he pulled the texts, phone calls and email campaign again. You must heal away from the toxic selfish MM. Listen to Stay by Sugarland. It has me sobbing. This song reminds me of all of us.
Hi Jazmin, I just read the lyrics. OMG, you are right - this is us. Why must the affair be so difficult to break? I am feeling so much sadness and lost and confused being in an affair I am married, unhappy and in sexless marriage but I cannot move on and leave my MM.
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Wait for that next call or text, wait for the next visit. What a waste of 14 years!! At first I was fine with it. Nothing was going to come of it. And what do I have to show for it nothing. Nothing but lies, secrets, tears, and heartache. I ask myself all those questions too. And after a few days one of us gives in and reaches out.
Texting, calling and stopping by. He knows he weakens me and I give in. I really do just need to block him and not let him in when he stops by. HI Ladies! I needed some advice. All answer I got from him? Sorry if I hurted you so much, I love you and sorry if not possible to be together. These holiday times are so hard. I just came in from working in the compost pile and some gardening. Dinner with a girlfriend this week, car getting worked on, exercising, a haircut.
Definitely always enough to stay busy. Angie- Good for you! I wish I could make it past a week. Hurts my heart so much. I tell myself everyday I need to stop this. I keep trying to search within myself as to why I keep this going. What am I lacking in my life. None of us do. We all deserve to be loved, to be the only one! Ive loved him for some time. He should have quit seeing me when he met her and it is the stringing me along and lying that has caused so much pain.
Winonag,I will try to offer some advice, but it sounds to me that you are experiencing a lot of good feelings with the MM at this time, so that makes it hard to quit. I would say to read through the many, many experiences of people here and think about those scenarios if they were to happen in your future. There is a lot of hurt, loneliness and damage to oneself that comes in these situations.
I am thankful to God that mine only lasted 6 months. If it had been a year or more, it might have killed me. This addiction to the pleasure is like a drug. That is a horrible feeling! End it while you are on top!! If you have not been involved with him all that long, I say, try hard to end it. If your husband finds out, what will his reaction be? Will you split? Do you wish to be single? Just try to think about possible outcomes. The last thing I will say is that it sounds like MM laid down the rules.
Mine was sort of that way and I went along with his rulesa strong man is attractivebut he is seeing that you are submissive to him. I was alsountil I stood up for myself and said no more. If you feel you want to not be married, then possibly seek a divorce. My ex guy said he takes good care of those he loveshe is great at keeping the home, vehicles, etc in top notch condition, BUT. It is devastating. Please read the devastation in the many stories bled and cried onto this blog. Your situation will not be spared the pain.
The sooner you can break the addiction, the easier it will be for you. Angie- just wanted to say, your advice to WinonaG is bang on! Never easy especially when we see the MM as an extremely unhealthy addiction.
Honestly, women like you are keeping me strong. Thank you for that! Thank you, thank you! Hi Angie and all, thank you for the comments and responses. They are helpful and very encouraging to know that the pain will go way eventually, and that really having an affair with a MM is bad and toxic.
Him and I have been together almost 6 months and it has been 6 months of all emotions. Unfortunately as of today, we are still communicating and I am trying my best to find the courage to go NC with him. This MM is a narcissist and manipulative; I know that he is not a good person to me but it just feels good to be with him.
But I also know I need to end our affair, and whether I stay with my husband or not is unknown at this time. I really do not know if I will stay with my husband. We have not really been communicating and we have been cold to each other. Yes we are in same house, but lately I have been sleeping in another room so I can avoid him. I get upset knowing that he is with his own family when I knew from beginning he was married.
It is affecting me emotionally; I cry for no reasons and I miss him a lot. I wish I can be with him all the time.
I wish I had not been emotionally attached to him. Hi all! I am married and having an affair with a married man. I am very into the MM and love him and my feelings for my husband have gone away and I feel indifferent towards the husband.
We both agreed families come first and we would not leave our families. While my MM gives me the high, he also makes me sad and depressed and confused. I miss him like crazy and wish I could spend more time with him but I know it is impossible. I do want to get out of the affair but I just do not know how. I am so afraid of the pain. I was very sad and completely shattered. He gets me and I get him. I can be so open to him and tell him anything.
I wish my husband would be like him; I wish my husband would be more fun and thrilling but he is not. I am feeling really lost and depressed and confused. I love my MM but hate him at the same time. How did you ladies really end the affair? I cannot even last a day without talking to him. I miss him like crazy. Ladies and gents, please help me go in the right direction.
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Thank you! Your situation sounds identical to mine. I ended things for good two weeks ago, after many failed attempts over 2. I am married and so is he. My husband is a good man, he has his flaws but so do I. The thrill of it all made me feel like it was love.
It felt like he was the person I needed in my life instead of my husband. You said you feel indifferent towards your husband, I know that feeling all too well as it definitely came in heavy waves after the MM entered my life! And as a result we feel that we are indifferent or out of love with them.
We forget all the positive qualities and look for the things that make them inferior to the MM. As soon as I end it with the MM, I am a mess for a period and then i stabilize and my emotional and physical attention is able to return to my husband. And I see him for all the good that he is and does for me. I was shocked, why would he ask this?
That hit me hard. Not saying this is a hard and fast rule, but it could very well be the case for you too. We also have to realize that we are guilty of painting pictures of the MM in a beautiful light.
The husband you marry, you know - the good, the bad and the ugly. I just needed to put that out there, i will never go back to the MM again. And I am looking forward to rebuilding my marriage, my boundaries and my sense of self to be stronger and never allow temptation and fleeting desire to take over in this way.
We are human and make mistakes, we are not bad people, but we also have to learn from the errors we make in order break a cycle of shame, guilt, rollercoaster highs and lows and inevitable disaster. Hi Mila, thank you for your reply. I agree that most women find it difficult to love two men at the same time. Our emotional connection and physical connection is all great!
But I have to think about how bad it is for me and I know we are not leaving our families so this is not going anywhere, and is it really worth to be in this affair relationship? I cannot believe we have lasted this long though and he keeps telling me we will never break up.
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I am not ready for it. Jan, Just an observation from outside the situation. It seems amazing to me that he could be so bold to marry and flaunt it, when his life could be blown up by you. Would he do anything drastic to keep his lying side private? I know of a woman whose husband hired a hit man to do her in. The police told her and husband ended up killing homself when his plan was exposed. Just be safe and stay aware. Angie Thanks for your post.
He has nothing to be concerned about. I will not do anything to spoil things for him.
He is not part of my life and I am glad to be away from him and his lies. God will protect me and heal my heart. No more wondering.
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They are happy, good for them. Good riddance to bad rubbish. My last post for a few days, because I am no expert, but am glad that I can hopefully show some strength that might encourage another woman. Some of the names here, who posted lateI suggest you read. Ley, Neveragain. Just a bit from their posts. He sent a text out of nowhere, ending it. Not face to facea text. Getting slowly better. I did too. End of visit, they drive home to their wives, kiss the lips they kissed me with and other things look her right in the eyes and lie, like he lies to me.
Dating these MM is killing us slowly. The wife didnt win. He had a whole other relationship. Neither woman benefits from a cheating man, so try not to be jealous.
The wife may post happy pictures on social media, but it is not the truth. It is what people want others to see. Those bits stuck with me. Angie, you are an Angel. Ive had to go to work and pretend to be alright.
Truth is I was nothing close to alright. He had no need to keep me dangling like a toy wind chime that he would knock into whenever he felt to pass by. If they knew the truth she would be devastated and scandalised. That I sent not my way so let him continue to live a lie. He has already cheated on her the whole time she said known him with me and God knows there must have been other women too. Ive been unable to eat, unable to sleep, been going to work on either zero sleep or a few hours only.
In 7 days I smoked 41 cigs. I gave up over 2 years ago. I fainted from exhaustion yesterday and my son is the one who picked me up off my doorstep, picking up the pieces left by that evil barstard. I feel revolted by memories of us being intimate, revolted and used. Everything was a lie. The only real things were the gifts he bought and they are nearly all in the trash and gone. He was practicing a deliberate strategy of casual meaningless recreational sex with me for over 4years. His new wife got the rolls Royce of treatment right from the start.
He likes women who can make him look like someone better so with her connections his ego can become engorged by his self worship. I have 3 main supporters who care for me. They encourage me to eat, listen when I vent, understand my pain and say yes cry let it out. He wiped his eyes as she cane down the aisle, that barstard.
I agree, he is lucky she does not know the truth about how he has used and hurt women before they met and throughout their whole relationship since the day they met. I let him know he is lucky that I am not one of those women who would have posted the truth so she would know.
No, any revealing of what he really is will come out in some other way. An imposter who crept into my bed and out again behind her back.
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I just want to thank every single one of you for helping me to get throughout this living nightmare. To the women still involved with a man you know is not right, let my experience wake you up. I loved a man who tricked me and left one wife or was already divorced when we met. He bought her a very expensive triple diamond engagement ring and popped the question in a high end restaurant then took her back to the hotel room for romantic sex, they had sex everywhere before that.
He knew her 1 year beforehand the engagement. Do not trust those men. Wake up and get free, please. I feel your pain I really do I was with my mm for 5 years and we left our partners for one another. I fail every time I try to break it off. I always tell myself this is the last time. I want to be done. I was in your shoes. Every time I ended it with MM, he would have a melt down. He would send texts, emails, call my cell and house phones non-stop. I would give in out of fear of what he would do to myself or himself.
But he is NOT ur responsibility. After 2 yrs and 9 months, I finally ended it and warned him if he pulled the bombard melt down tactic, I would call the police and file a stalking report!
Bingo- it worked. If he tries it, I will send the cops to his marital home with the restraining order. Game over. Reclaim your life and dignity from bottom feeder MM looking to use you as an escape. This is just a note for Jan. You have been on my mind since you discovered the devastating information. I know you are hurting so bad!! Please know that people are pulling for youpraying.
Your very honest posts touch so many hearts. Maybe this last painful thing will be enough to free yourself for peace, healinglots of healing. Right now, I see your wounds as fresh and bleeding, so surviving is what you have to do.
Healing will take a long time, but it can happen. Prayers for all you ladies. New Summer outfit? Wishing you all peace.